Time Boundaries

I’m still fighting for control of my family.

The homework is sucking up entire evenings. I’m sick of it. Something must be done.

It’s time to raise some boundaries — to tell Public School, “Here shall your proud waves stop.”

I teach all day. I teach all night. We don’t eat well. The house is falling apart. This is ludicrous. All for this little “A” on a report card. This all important “A.”

I could tell my children that getting an A isn’t everything. It’s important. But within reason. It’s not all important. But that’s a cop-out. If, from the minute we get home, the homework gets done and nothing else does — I’m communicating to them that the “A” is all-important. That it is everything. That it’s more important than cleanliness and orderliness. More important than good food, laughter, and family time. Getting that “A” trumps play time, making a fire, putting up our Christmas tree, walking the dog, cleaning the room, folding the laundry.

From now on, I’m setting a time limit. The kids have one hour to work on homework. If it’s not done by then, the school can take their “A” and shove it.

The girls need time to do other important things. Like contribute to the home they live in. Like eating without working. Like playing together. Like relaxing. Like living with their family.

Here it stops. I’ll instruct them to not apologize. I’ll instruct them to not make excuses. To say, “My school work exceeded the time allotted to it.”

I know this will drive my girls crazy. They like to get A’s. But, they’ll have to use class time more wisely or be more efficient.

And it’s no longer going to be called homework. From here on out, it will be called it’s proper name: school work. If they can’t get it done in the six hours they’re there — too bad.

Their school work is no longer going to run our lives at home.

Home is for Home-Work.

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2 Comments

  1. While I understand that you can find studies or conduct studies that prove almost anything, I think that studies on homework are fascinating. I don’t think that kids should have homework most of the time.

    Occasionally homework might be appropriate and my classes even have what are called Family Homework Exercises. FHE are actually just discussion cues to facilitate parent and student communications about sensitive matters.

    I feel that in most cases we as adults work our 8 hours and go home. MOST of the time adults don’t take work home with them. MOST of the time adults go home and take care of the household duties that are necessary: cleaning, laundry, dinner, etc. After spending 8 hours at work, sitting at a desk, or whatever you do at your work, an adult doesn’t choose to come home and do more of the same.

    Therefore I do not feel that homework is practical. In fact, I think there may be a direct correlation in the increase of obesity and the increase of homework. If kids are coming home and getting to work on homework, they are not spending time outside playing.
    When kids get home from “work” they shouldn’t have to do more of the same. They should be allowed to do what adults do, use their unstructured free time to do as the please, within reason.

    In an article I most recently read on the subject I found a concept about how detrimental homework is because the kids who need it most are not the ones getting it done. The kids who are after that A, whose parents are likely able to help with homework, are generally the kids that don’t need more practice with the skills. Those same kids are the ones that spend HOURS at night working on homework. The kids that need the practice are not likely giving any time to their work. Most of them probably don’t even bring it home. Most of them don’t even bother with making excuses, they just plain don’t do it.

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